This is a deceptively simple way to relax and feel calmer inside. Practise it regularly and it will change the way you feel, even in difficult situations.
Breathing in for a count of 7 and out for a count of 11 is an easy way to calm the body down. All kinds of things change in the body as we breathe in and out, but in essence the heartbeat quickens and blood pressure goes up as we breathe in, and as we breathe out the reverse happens.
In other words, breathing out makes the body calmer, and you can exploit this by simply breathing out more slowly so the out-breath takes longer. Over a few minutes you will feel the effect getting stronger, especially if you practise regularly.
It will make you feel a bit drowsy or detached, so do not try it when driving, operating machinery, looking after children or taking a bath. Here’s the routine:
Find somewhere comfortable to sit and relax.
Sit in a chair with your shoulders relaxed and your hands folded over your stomach
Breathe in through your nose for a count of 7, then purse your lips and breathe out through your mouth for a count of 11. You may find it helps to start with breathing in for 3 and out for 5, then work up to 7/11 – it really doesn’t matter as long as you breathe out for longer than you breathe in).
Let the air go all the way down so your stomach rises as you breathe in and your shoulders stay still. This diaphragmatic breathing is also associated with relaxation and calm.
Once you are into a rhythm, start to notice the way muscles around your body change as you breathe out. Maybe start with your toes, letting your toes relax as you breathe out, then work up with each breath out: through your ankles, calves, things, stomach and so on until you get to your eyes, letting all the muscles around your eyes relax as you breathe out.
Keep going for as long as you like. Maybe use some relaxing music, timed so that you can gently bring yourself back to normal wakefulness at the end – and carry the extra calm around with you for the rest of the day